Adulting, phew! Almost everyone keeps complaining about this adulting process including me and even though the process get tiring from time to time, I believe it can also be fun if we know how to navigate the process.
Urban Dictionary defines “adulting” as “to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown ups.”
I understand that adulting can be stressful and sometimes difficult but I have always been one who always looked forward to growing up, the process of blooming into an adult has always been a fascinating experience to me coupled with the freedom that comes with it.
I believe this feeling can attributed to my childhood and all the restrictions that came with it, so as I gradually grew into a young adult I embraced adulthood with both hands. I have never been one who would say things like, I wish I was still a child so that people can still do stuff for me.
If there ever was a magical spell were we where told to make a choice to pick adulthood or go back to being kids, I would definitely grab being an adult with both hands, I would pray for to enjoy the process of it.
Adulting brings with it the gift of understanding and responsibility, it affords me the opportunity to keep my emotions to myself and only share it with whomever I please.
Alot of times, we complain as adult about the responsibilities that are expected from us and the challenges that we face on a daily basis forgetting the fact that these also lead to growth. I have been an adult for a number of years now and I’m grateful for all the opportunities it affords me.
In this part of the world, you will be suprised how some parents still hold on for dear life to their children, they call it love and it can sometimes be overbearing and so sometimes even in adulthood, a young person who is in the adulting process still needs to keep reclaiming his adultship because the parents have refused to come to terms with it.
I know that some people dread the idea of living alone or getting their own place and becoming independent – where you take care of your own laundry, your food, menial house chores, paying bills etc. But I have always liked the idea of owning my own space, living life on my own terms, deciding what I want to do, when I want to do without seeking anyone’s approval. I have always loved the idea of being able to pick up my bag and just travel to see a friend or move to a different city… Call it whatever you like, say it’s not as easy as it looks on paper but the truth is adulting allows you to do all these and more.
I swear to you, adulting isn’t that bad. Yes, you will change as a person in countless of ways you never saw, you would lose some friends and your heart will get broken along the way, you would miss your parents favourite cooking, on some harder days, you would wish your parents were around to take care of you like they did when you were younger…
But hey, life’s good and you’re living it with confidence, light and love. Surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you, pursue after the things your heart desires and unashamed about it embracing everything that adulthood has to offer.
Keep in mind that life will continually happen whether we seem to take note or not, so remember to smell the roses and when life gives you more than you can handle, don’t forget that you’re allowed to pump the brakes, this life is yours, you’re not in competition with anybody else. Breathe. Clear your mind, think about how far you have come and how much you have enjoyed and soared in every of life’s challenges.
This adulting was made for you cos life expects you to grow and it could be fun too while living it, it just depends from what lens you’re looking at it.